A Woman The World Can’t Comprehend
“She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future. When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness.”
Proverbs 31:25-26 (NLT)
In honor of #internationalwomansday last week, I wanted to take a moment to highlight my ladies. March 8th was not a day to elevate women above men, but rather to acknowledge her for the things she has accomplished as an individual; to acknowledge her strength, edify her grit, and encourage confidence.
We are brave. We are bold. We are strong. I always make it a priority to find rest in the every day hustle and bustle… To just take a moment to sit and thank God for the woman He is shaping me into. During that time of gratitude, I was reflecting on what it means to be a “woman of strength.” I’ve heard this countless of times throughout my life and it’s one thing to hear it and agree with a catchy, uplifting phrase, but it’s another thing to accept it for yourself and to walk in that truth. I began to ask God, as well as my family, what a woman of strength looks like. I have come to find that there are a lot of things that make up a woman of strength, but here are just 5 things that I concluded:
1. Rather than waiting to become ready to endure a journey, she understands that it is within the journey that she will gain her strength.
I’ve heard it said like this: You can either ask God to lighten your load, or ask Him to strengthen your back. No journey will be perfect, and if its the right one, you will face conflict and struggle. But rather than waiting until you’re more prepared to handle the struggle or waiting ’til things get a little easier, understand that God will give you what you need to handle everything that is coming your way. You will find strength in the journey because when struggle is amidst, growth will occur. All you need to do is keep walking in faith.
2. Rather than not being afraid of anything, she shows courage in the midst of fear and declares her triumph and victory beforehand because she understands that God is with her.
One of my favorite verses would definitely be Psalms 46:5 (NIV). It states, “God is within her. She will not fall.” What makes a woman powerful is not her lack of fear, but her choice to choose courage in the midst of fear because she knows God is on her side. I don’t know about you, but I remember always waiting until I was a little older so that I would be braver to do something new. Whether it was sleeping alone in the dark or jumping off Waimea rock, I was always so hesitant to do what frightened me. But I realized courage doesn’t come with age because courage is a decision. Just like the great Winston S. Churchill said, “Fear is a reaction. Courage is a decision.” Instead of reacting, I’ve learned that its better to respond… and in this situation, we must respond with courage. Courage doesn’t mean you don’t get afraid. Courage means you don’t let the fear stop you. But that doesn’t always mean courage is a mighty roar. It can also be that little voice at the end of your day that says, “I will try again tomorrow.” Regardless, we find our strength and courage in Jesus. By remaining in Him, fear will have no hold over you. I promise! By declaring your victory before it happens, it’s almost like a fast-past to triumph because it will give you the courage and strength needed to endure your journey! Try it!
3. She is resilient.
This point kind of ties #1 and #2 together. But it more so eludes to the idea of inner strength. There is no woman more powerful than one that is determined to keep rising. A strong woman is measured by how many times she refused to allow hardships to dictate her and who she becomes. With the help of Jesus, getting back up again will be simple. Continue with your journey. The little bumps in the road are there to help elevate you. And it’s your choice to continue on and step forward with grit anchored in Grace. Your soul knows how to heal itself. But the challenge is silencing your thoughts and minimizing the negativity that runs through your mind. As someone who is a huge thinker, I struggle with this a lot. Shoutout to my over-thinkers! I know… the struggle is REAL. I learned that the way to navigate this is to adopt the mind of Christ. I am learning to train myself to see the good in everything; to see the beauty beyond the struggle. Positivity is a choice and when you choose it, you choose God. And He will get you through anything. He will provide the resilience needed to endure the journey. Its truly beautiful!
4. She is not completely overcome by her emotions.
In my house, there are 4 gentlemen (Dad, Mycah, Braiden and Emet) and 3 ladies (Mom, Giscelle, and myself) and the on-going joke is how emotional women are. Whenever I’m upset about something, I always here some boy say, “Oh she’s probably on her period. She’s fine.” If you know my family, I will give you one guess who says that the most… haha! Anyways, even though it irritates me IMMENSELY, it’s true. Women can be emotional. At least I can be! And that is totally and completely okay cause we were created to have emotions. We just need to understand how to control our emotions rather than letting our emotions control us. Women of strength do not take offense to little comments such as that, but rather allows for the love of her Father to overwhelm her in those times so that the only thing we exude is His love. It’s the same idea of responding, not reacting. We must respond in love.
5. She has a beautiful heart.
This one is simple. Nothing too crazy. Physical appearance can only take you so far. I like that famous quote that states, “No beauty shines brighter than that of a pure heart.” There are so many of us that struggle with confidence in the way we look. I know because I was someone like that! What’s beautiful is that that is my biggest testimony – how I went from insecure to invincible by focusing on inner beauty rather than getting caught up with what I saw in a mirror; The story of how Colossians 1:27 came to be my life verse. Stay tuned for that post!
There you have it, folks! That is what I believe being a woman of strength looks like. Of course there are SO MANY more attributes but these are 5 God highlighted to me. But HOLD UP. I wanted to just say this disclaimer really quick. These truths also apply to men as well. These can be what a “man of strength” looks like too. SO, if you’re a guy reading this, please find encouragement in this, too! I didn’t forget about y’alls! Lol!
Anyways, back to my girls! Let’s make it a goal this year to become women of strength. Let’s become women the world can’t comprehend! When women support each other and uplift each other, incredible things happen. And I believe that God wants to take us all to our next glory! I’m excited to journey alongside you!! Are you??
But what about you? Which one of these do you struggle with the most? Which do you feel you flourish in? In your opinion, what else describes a woman of strength? Let’s chat about it, love bug! I’d love to know your thoughts or your personal journey in becoming a strong woman (or man)! Feel free to message me directly or simply leave a comment. We can all dialogue together!
Thank you so much for reading!
Until next time!